I figured since I have a bunch of experience in the gym, my first Motivational Monday post should be related. I’m a gym rat, I love going to the gym, it’s easy for me. But it’s not easy for a lot of people, and it wasn’t always easy for me. What changed? I stopped blaming outside factors.
You know how it is. You WANT to do something. But WANTING and DOING are completely different things. When it comes to going to the gym, you have to really WANT to do it. And I don’t mean you have to want it for one day, anybody can do anything for one day, you have to maintain that desire.
Start with baby steps and work your way up. I work out 5-6 days a week and I rarely have a workout last less than two hours. If you’ve never been to the gym before, you’re not going to start out at that pace. Take it easy, take your time, and watch yourself progress.
I know how it goes, I’ve been there before. You’re doing really good for a week or so, feeling on top of the world, and then one day you wake up and you just don’t have the desire anymore. You don’t want to work out, you don’t want to eat healthy, you don’t want to do anything, quite frankly. This is where you’ve got to take accountability and BLAME YOURSELF.
This doesn’t just stand for working out, this stands for anything in life. If you ever come up short or don’t accomplish something you want to, blame yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you’re a failure. Oh, but that’s harsh, that’ll kill self-esteem even more. Quit crying, grow some thick skin, and be honest with yourself.
It doesn’t matter if you fail as long you give it your best, they say. You’re setting yourself up to be a failure if you believe that crap, I say. Let me clarify. Failing IS ok, I’ve failed many times and I still fail. Accepting failure just because you gave it your best is not ok. Even if that’s true, your best wasn’t good enough. And that should piss you off.
My favorite excuse for people failing is they just didn’t have enough time. I get it, I do know that there are some days that things just don’t go right, life keeps punching you in the face, and you genuinely do not have time to do something you wanted to. Not having time is not the problem, accepting that you didn’t have time is the problem.
Not having time should piss you off. If I don’t have time to hit a workout one day, I do everything in my power and try twice as hard to make sure I make it the next day. That’s what everyone should do, and that’s why a lot of people fail. They accept that they didn’t have enough time, believe they’ll never have enough time, and then they’re right back where they started.
The day I stopped blaming others and stopped blaming outside factors is when I found the most results. I honestly couldn’t tell you the last time I had an inconsistent week at the gym. It’s because I constantly failed and failed and failed. I’d be consistent for a few months and then I’d lose it.
I finally got pissed off. I stopped blaming other people for taking my time. I stopped blaming work for taking my time. I stopped blaming anything under the sun for taking my time and killing my motivation. It was my fault, I did other things I didn’t need to do when I could’ve been at the gym.
Starting something new is intimidating, but there’s always a reason for you to start something. Find that reason and use it to your advantage. I’m in that phase right now. This new-look/style blog is less than a week old for me. If I ever fail to post or stop losing motivation, it will be my fault. I realize that now.
Self-evaluate. If you ever fail to do something you wanted and you don’t think it’s your fault, just think. Chances are you’ll find out it was. Don’t be too hard on yourself, but don’t be easy on yourself either. If being fit, having a lot of money, being successful, etc. was easy, everybody would be that way.
Start blaming yourself, I guarantee you’ll see some kind of results when you do.